Stories from the Heart (True Love is always open arms)


A young disciple asked his master about true love. Master, what is the best thing to do in order to know and experience true love? The master said; stand up and stretch out your arms. What do you feel? I feel the coolness of soft breeze touching my body, the young disciple exclaimed. Again, the master said; now, embrace yourself. What do you feel?” I feel the heat of my body. I feel myself, the young disciple blurted out. Good, the master said with a smile on his face. The young disciple scratched his head and bewildered on the answer of his master and said; master it seems you didn’t answer my question. You just told me to stretch out my arms wide open and embraced myself, and I found that ridiculous. Then, the master explained with a beautiful smile on his face; what’s ridiculous with what I instructed you to do? Hahaha, you still don’t understand. My dear, love is like knowing and experiencing the soft breeze. By stretching your arms wide open, you will know and experience what a soft breeze is all about. On the contrary, you will not know and experience what a soft breeze is all about if you close your arms around you and feel yourself. Thus, true love is always open arms. With arms open, you allow yourself to know and experience it and to come and go as it will, freely, for it’ll do so anyway. However, if you close your arms for true love, you will not really know and experience it. You’ll find only holding yourself. Remember this my dear; true love is not all about fall ‘in’ or ‘out’ of it. It is your willingness to grow on it that defines what it is all about.

Stories from the Heart (You don’t have to work for LOVE)


A young man asked his grandfather; grand Pa why is it so hard to love? I already experienced a lot of broken relationships in life. I also experienced rejections for many times. I did my best, but my best wasn’t good enough in loving. I also did my very best to be creative in loving but nothing happened. Perhaps, love is not for me. Maybe, I was not born for love. Suddenly, the grandfather respond; son, don’t say that love is not meant for you. We were born out of love and you will not be who you are now without love. Yes my dear, it is really difficult to love because love is not cheap. It takes more time, more effort, and more faith to love. I am now 85 years old but still I am learning and beginning to love because to live in love is always to start all over again. Love is simple. It embraces what is ordinary and it does not complicate things. Love is an emotion, and I really agree on that. But it is also a “response” to an emotion and an active expression of what is felt. Love is not learned by osmosis, flowering insights, and compulsions; it is always acted out and acted upon. For 85 years of my existence, this is what I have realized about my life; I was born out of love and called to love. However son, always remember this; you don’t have to work for love; love requires no teacher; you just fall into love if you follow the right rules and play the right “game” correctly. Love is learned best in wonder, in joy, in peace, in living. For 85 years living here in this world, this is what I’ve learned on persevering and persisting in loving despite the pains and demands it brings.

Indeed, it’s really challenging to love. But let’s not lose our enthusiasm and motivation to love sincerely and wholeheartedly. Let’s continue to be persevering (or determined) and persistent in loving. What matters most in loving sincerely and wholeheartedly is not the result, but the learning which we will felt unless we let ourselves be indulge in love in spite of its demands, challenges, and pains it brings.  What matters most in loving sincerely and wholeheartedly is not the result, but the learning which we will FEEL unless we let ourselves be indulge in love in spite of its demands, challenges, and pains it brings.



When you’re paralyzed within, it’s hard to move on.  But wait a minute, what’s ‘paralyzed within’ that I’m talking about?  I’m sure we experienced this.  It’s a feeling of massive compunction that we can’t control.  It’s a sensation of too much pain inflicted in our hearts because of past heart-brokenness and regrets which sometimes haunts and disturbs us whenever we feel alone and lonely in life.  It’s one of the malady within our emotional state that’s hard to deal with because it impedes us to move forward and to go on in life.  Hence, life is sometimes tragic.  It is really inevitable to experience this kind of feeling.

When we are ‘paralyzed within’ it’s really hard to see the brighter side of life.  Everything seems so gloomy and depressing.  We can’t take a good stance when we’re down and troubled.  We are confuse to decide whether to push through fearlessly even though it hurts or to let it be as it is by saying ‘I can’t’.  Life is really full of twists and turns.  When we are ‘paralyzed within’ we cannot but accept the fact that life is not a bed roses; it is going through its thorns.

However, in every paralysis that we encounter in life there are tidbits of hope waiting for us and assure us encouragement to move on albeit hardships and sufferings.  Thus, nothing to be afraid of when are experiencing paralysis within our lives.  There’s always an assurance of hope when we start to handle every paralysis we experience with a steadfast heart and optimism.

A Life of Peace


Are we really peaceful nowadays?  Are we really living in peace?  In my belief, we truly need peace nowadays.  Amidst the clashing of noises that our world today is encountering, our hearts are still longing and yearning for peace.  It’s so sickening and distressing already to engage ourselves on the different noises the world is offering to us today.  This is my realization; I thought noise is more appealing and engaging in life because it really entertains you and lures you to be get involved on it, but the risk is the more noises that you absorb in life, the more complexities that you will encounter later on.  And so, the essence of peace loses its taste and ardor when we let noise to sway our lives.  Hence, it’s indeed a continuous struggle to long for it.

Do we really know how we may be able to conquer the noise through peace?  This is what I pondered; the ambiance of noise in our lives will only be conquered if we will let it to begin in our hearts.  Peace is not just an absence of conflict or war.  It is a positive reality that all of us must recognize and appropriate. Indeed, the quest for peace of mind and heart cannot be considered as an attainable reality when you’re disturbed, anxious, and depressed with so many preoccupations and agitations in life.  So, give peace a chance to overrule our lives.  Lend our ears to it so that we may be able to appreciate its beautiful music and harmony that it brings to us.  Open our minds and hearts to it because it will only be felt if and only if we welcome it and allow it to penetrate our existence.  A life of peace is truly manifested when man’s beautiful relationship with God, neighbor, environment, and even his/her self is fully realized and being given a real importance.

Of Gossips and Men


Gossip is evil.  It kills not only us and also our capacity to relate, but also relationship itself.  Every time I hear gossips everywhere I easily become indignant about it because I am a victim of gossips.  What an irony to live a life with a lot of gossips everywhere.  I cannot but have the tendency to depreciate the quality of life nowadays.  Why gossip?  Is our life a showbiz?  There’s a need nowadays to check and balance the kind of trend that we are liking and following up to.  It’s really unpleasant and sickening to hear gossips which impedes what’s sincerely true and certainly honest.  Hence, correct me if I’m wrong, people nowadays are not fond anymore of validating and confirming what’s true and half true.  Gossips now are relatively true and tantamount to truth.  Sounds irritating, annoying, frustrating, and maddening, but this what’s happening now as we live this life controlled by the theatrics of several men known as ‘gossipers’.

Gossips are everywhere; in homes, offices, institutions, schools, media, social media, and even in churches.  Sometimes subtle, yet cunning.  Oftentimes constructive, yet deadly.  Worst scenario; it also serves as a cause for atrocity in cold blood, discrimination, rejection, hatred, confusion, and misinterpretation.  Life is so ironic to think about this; a gossip a day makes someone’s life in hell.  Well, no one cares about it so ‘damnations’ continue to rule in our lives.  Do we really understand about these consequences as we gossips our neighbors?

I said a while ago that I am a victim of gossips.  A portion of my life was ruined because of ‘constructive’ gossips.  Now, they are happy about it because I am shamed and belittled, but on my part I suffered a lot.  I experienced being mocked and scorned because of several ‘constructive’ gossips that became true and factual.  And worst, I was judged as a bad person.  I really feel so bad about it until now.  It’s really hard to move on in life when gossips hinder and manipulate you and your actuations.  It’s really disturbing, upsetting, and distressing to hear gossips far and wide.  In my experience, gossip is really the corruption of truth.  It is also a stumbling-block for attaining and realizing a sincere and mature relationship.  Before we judge a person through gossips, why not ask him/her first some questions for clarification about what we heard or witnessed, or about some issues that are seemingly related to his/her personality or actuations in a polite and respectful manner?  I think this is more courteous and  more dignified way of treating and considering a person with reverence and esteem rather than making fun of him/her, ridiculing him/her, and putting him/her down through gossips.  Remember; a single gossip is more surely and certainly kills a person instantly than a multiple stab of a knife or a single shot of a bullet in the head.  So, think and ponder first what we utter to others about a particular issue of a person before we judge him/her according to our own suppositions and presumptions.




Last Thursday someone asked me this question: why are you fond of posting your opinions and quotations about love in your Facebook account?  I tried to answer this question but in a generic way.  Why I am fond of posting my opinions and quotations about love?  Perhaps, majority of my friends in Facebook have this kind of question in their minds knowing my present state and identity. Maybe others are already being alarmed and fed up reading my posts about love which its content contradicts my present situation.  There are a lot of things to talk and to reflect under the sun in a prudent way which could be a good and discreet post in Facebook, but why I choose to talk about love on another way?  What drives me to reflect upon it on that way?

I would like to speak from the heart as I ponder the many questions regarding my appreciation and respect about love.  In my life’s on-going expedition, I consider love as a platform for my life, why? Because I made the most mistakes out of it.  It’s hard to be a “lover” because it entails great challenges, struggles, and sufferings.  So, I know how it feels and it’s really demanding.  But, to speak about love and to live it is not really a night-time-decision-making-process.  It takes time, effort, and faith.  Hence, Leo Buscaglia is true on his assertion about love; Love is a Learned Phenomenon.  You cannot know and understand love unless you indulge yourself on its different manifestations.  You cannot express about it unless you allow your heart to be penetrated by it.  As I think of my life being driven and stirred by it, all I could say, it’s good to be influenced by it despite the fact that I am not worthy of it.

One of the greatest learnings that I really cherish in my life is love.  However, what is love for me?  I really read a lot of books about love just to search an affable description that fits my personality and identity.  I asked also so many questions to my friends and even to those who are more knowledgeable and experienced about it.  But, at the end of all these things, still the question boggles my mind; what is love for me?  As I revisit and recall all my experiences and struggles related to love, what rises up is moving on and conversion.  So, love for me is a series of moving on and conversion in life every day.  Trying to look back my past experiences about love, is really an encounter of pains, mistakes, trials, and even discouragements.  Nonetheless, all those things did not stop me to move on and embrace conversion.  I consider all these things not a hindrance for me to love and to achieve true love, but a consolation.  Indeed, love will never be called ‘love’ unless we plunge our whole life on its miseries.

My dear friends, if you ever wonder why I am fond of posting my opinions and quotations about love I would like to tell you that it emanates from my daily struggles and daily experiences. Learning it through the school of hard knocks I realized, why not share my experiences about it even though I know it’s nothing to do with others experiences.  Henceforth, ‘Love Outside Box’; my personal theme in life; the summary of my journey towards love.  This also serves as my guide and path as I venture this life with different stories and surprises about love along the way.  Life is really like a road trip; exhausting, yet enjoying when you start to love the trip.

Now, a new road has opened.  Another new path to embrace which will remind me once again not to be stagnant, rather I should discover more and learn something new about love.  These are the challenges and invitations I received today as I celebrate my birthday.  Another year has opened for me to love more sincerely and humbly.  Although it’s so tiring to love, love never fails me to cast out all my fears, to accept pains, to learn from my mistakes, to be hopeful in times of desolation, and to grow in loving without any expectations even though it’s demanding.  Thank you Lord for the gift of life.  Without you I will never know that what matters most in life is love because it’s through love that you made me who I am.

The Road of Uncertainty


Life is like a road trip; exhausting, lengthy, time-consuming, and strenuous.  However, when you arrived at your destination or your journey’s end, what a great pleasure and joy.  In a road trip uncertainties are unavoidable to experience even though we know the direction of our desired destination.  Along a road trip we sometimes ask ourselves; am I able to arrive safe and sound at my desired destination?  Am I able to make it even though there are uncertainties, hesitations, worries, and fears inside my heart and head?  What will I encounter as my road trip goes on and on? Will I be meeting new co-journeyers along the road?  Hence, we cannot but ask a lot of questions as our lives goes on journeying in the midst of uncertainties.  Just like a road trip we cannot but place ourselves on a risk of continuing our journey for the sake of reaching our desired destination, i.e. the one thing necessary for our lives.

Yesterday we welcomed the year 2016 and we say our goodbyes to the year 2015.  For sure we have a lot of expectations and wishes as we welcome the New Year.  However, uncertainties, doubts, and hesitations disturb us when this question pops-up in our minds and hearts; what will be my 2016 as I go on in my life’s journey embracing the new chapter of my existence?  I myself also have this kind of mix feelings as I ponder upon the New Year.  Although I am assure that this New Year will bring a lot of good and unexpected surprises along my life’s journey, it’s also unavoidable on my part to have petty fears, hesitations, and doubts.

From this experience I realized the importance of placing our hope and trust in God.  He knows more what is deserving and better for us if and only if we start to believe in Him.  Though uncertainties make us tremble, placing our hope and trust in Him assure us encouragement and motivation to go on in life.  To whom shall we fear if we will place our hope and trust in Him?  Indeed, our life’s journey for this New Year will never be covered by uncertainties, doubts, and hesitations if we will place our hope and trust in God.