Why is it so hard to love? As I based it to my experiences, there are times that when you express your love to somebody in a form of concern, appreciation, recognition, and sincerity some will just ignore it and others will criticize you or put you down. Upon reflecting this something popped-up into my mind; when you do your best to be sincere in loving it’s true that you cannot really please everybody. It’s really a great pain on our part that as we exert our effort in loving what we will receive is not peace but piss. So, we become tired and not enthusiastic anymore in loving our neighbors as the same as we love ourselves.
It’s a great ache into our hearts that people do not recognize the love that we bring to them. We cannot but burst into tears when we realize that loving does not grant us merits. Why isn’t so easy to love somebody? Why loving so demanding? Why do we need to sacrifice our expectation for the sake of true love? These are the questions that continuously bothering me whenever I do my very best to love others sincerely.
As I reflect upon this phenomenon called “the severe side of loving”, I cannot but accept the fact that loving is not a dilly-dally occurrence, but a great commitment and responsibility for each and every one of us. The rule of loving states that it doesn’t matter when you feel rejected or in pain in loving, what matter most is before we were being formed in the womb of our mothers God already loved us tenderly and compassionately. But, why rejection and pain is a more dominant feeling than the feeling of being loved by God? Human as we are, we cannot but be affected by the reality called pain and rejection. Sometimes, when pain and rejection strikes our fragility and brokenness inside our hearts it’s really hard to recognize that we are being loved by God.
It’s so pathetic and so sophisticated that God’s love seems too invisible into our lives when we cannot bear the immensity of pain and rejection into our lives anymore. Despite the fact that pain and rejection are something inevitable in loving, is there still consolation beside these two realities? Yes Indeed. In spite of the pangs of pain and rejection, I do still believe that there’s still hope in loving. Without these two realities we cannot recognize and be aware of the significance of loving our neighbors by giving our whole selves to them. Indeed, loving takes a lot of endurance and perseverance. This confirms the fact that engaging ourselves in the realm called loving is not a one-day affair. It’s a lifetime process and struggle that we need really to consider as we journey towards true happiness. From this I realized that I should not stop loving for it is a means to receive the consolation to see the face of God despite the fact that we cannot really love totally and sincerely without pain and rejection.
Just like us, Christ too experienced what it means to love truly amidst pain and rejection. So, we cannot but love…love…love, and this is the only ticket for us to recognize Him as LOVE.